Teens with depression may feel uncomfortable verbalizing how they feel. They may feel embarrassed or may not want to seem vulnerable. Some things to consider include why it may be hard for your teen to say they are depressed instead of grumpy or sad. Sadness in teens is perceived differently by every individual. The consequences of saying “I’m depressed” may be too overwhelming for a teen which is why the resort to “I’m grumpy”. As a parent it is important that you listen to understand and learn about some reasons why your teen may choose a different word. You are there biggest advocate and it is critical that they feel loved and supported by you. Talk to your teen. Find out what they are uncomfortable with. Ask them how you can help.
Some reasons why your teen may avoid saying that they are depressed include the following.
Fear of the Follow-up Response
Often times, people naturally respond “why?” when someone says they are depressed. This can make teens feel cornered. And like the way they feel is wrong. The reality is that no one chooses to be/feel depressed therefore they should not feel like they have to explain themselves. Often times, people group those struggling with depression with everyone else. There typically is an explanation for emotions. However, those dealing with depression may not have an answer. And that’s okay.
The Social Aspect
It’s normal to do whatever we deem as socially acceptable. Quite frankly saying “I’m grumpy” feels a lot more socially acceptable than “I’m depressed”. When one says their grumpy, people tend to find that relatable. Like we’ve all been grumpy before. However, when one admits to being depressed everything can get awkward. Did you ever consider this may be why your teen doesn’t want to throw that word around? Because it makes them feel like an outcast.
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