The teenage years bring about many hormonal changes for teenage girls. Parenting a teenager can often feel like a power struggle. When they exhibit defiant behavior, it can quickly become frustrating and cause you to want to react negatively. In the end, this will only worsen the situation and the relationship between you and your teen. Getting help for a defiant teenage daughter at a residential treatment program may be the best option for your child. However, before taking that step, here are some ways you can work towards positive change in your teen’s defiant behavior.
Five Ways to End the Fight
Consider these five tips for empowering yourself to end the defiance in your home:
- Know your limits. You must first control yourself before you can attempt to take control of chaos at home. Develop your sense of self-respect and learn where to draw the line. Remember consistency truly is key. Make your expectations clear and follow through. If you take away your teen’s privileges when they exhibit inappropriate behaviors, then they will quickly learn that they do not have the power to manipulate you. This is not you acting as the “bad guy”, this is you holding your teen accountable for their actions.
- Practice problem solving. Whether you realize it or not, you are a huge influence on your child. Part of your job as a parent is to teach your teen how to effectively handle tough situations and manage emotions. You must communicate with them clearly that lashing out, screaming, or being disrespectful will never solve anything. Suggest other effective ways to handle things such as: journaling, walking away, taking a deep breath, etc.
- Think ahead. Be prepared to confront situations with your teen. Deliver your message firmly. Communicate that you will not tolerate being disrespected. Use a business-like and stern tone to set the example for your teen. If you refuse to engage in a screaming match, they will feel silly for responding that way. Remain calm and go into the situation ready to stand your ground in an effective manner.
- Take it one day at a time. Don’t expect everything to be solved in one incident. Helping your teen overcome defiance is a gradual process. You should appreciate the small victories and improvements. After an argument, go back and process it with your teen. Talk about how you could have handled the situation differently. Talk about the ways they handled it appropriately. This is a part of the growing process. It will also strengthen the bond and understanding between you and your teen.
- Seek out your support system. Don’t be hesitant to lean on family and friends for support. Bottling up your stress is never a good idea. Don’t feel ashamed about talking about things with family and friends. Extend your expectations to them to avoid communication barriers. This kind of change is a group effort. Ask for help when you need it whether it be from a therapist, support group, or family member.
Solstice East Can Help
Solstice East is a residential treatment center for young women ages 14-18 struggling with behavior and emotional issues such as those that can stem from peer-relationship struggles. This program focuses on helping young women heal, recover, and integrate healthy habits into their lives. Students will learn to build healthy relationships, cope with emotions, and effectively communicate. Solstice East gives young women the skills and confidence they need to lead happy and healthy lives. We can help your family today!
Contact us at (855) 672-7058.