Now that your daughter is a teenager, you’re probably seeing her less and less. Many teens try to distance themselves from their parents because they are reaching out to their peers for the comfort and support they once found in you. Bonding with your teen at this point may seem nearly impossible. However, there are a few simple things you can do to build a stronger relationship with your daughter.
Creating a strong, trusting bond
Building a good relationship with your daughter can lead to a close, loving relationship for years to come. Here a few things you can do to help bonding with your teen:
- Be genuinely interested in her hobbies: If your daughter loves playing the guitar, ask if you can jam out with her on occasion.
- Communicate with her via computer: Talking via instant message is the way today’s teens communicate. Start “talking their talk”, so to speak. Teens often feel more comfortable opening up to people in their lives when they are talking to them online and not face to face. According to a 2008 survey conducted by Samsung Mobile, more than 53 percent of teens surveyed believe their relationship with their parents improved after they began communicating with them via texting.
- Share your own passions: If you’re the crafty type, get your daughter involved in a craft project you can do together like putting together a scrapbook of your family or making decorations for the closest holiday. Through this, she can learn more about you as a person beyond the concerned parent she sees on a day to day basis.
- Talk with her in the car: In the car, your daughter might be more willing to open up to you about her life. Think about it- she’s in an enclosed space with you for an extended period of time. Something that might be extremely rare nowadays! Take advantage of this time you’re able to spend with her and talk to her about what’s going on in her life.
- Stay calm: Bonding with your teen begins with calm, pleasant conversation. Lecturing your teen will only drive them further away from you. When your teen is dealing with a troubling situation, don’t go straight to the usual lecture you’d give them. Your teen needs to know that you’ll always be there for them in a nurturing way. Not a lecturing, domineering one.
Solstice East can help
If you’re having trouble bonding with your teen in a meaningful way due to their own emotional and behavioral struggles, consider Solstice East. Solstice East is a residential treatment center for teen girls ages 14-18.
For more information about Solstice East, please call (855) 672-7058